Experienced Couples Counsellor Helping To Heal and Strengthen Relationships
IN PERSON AT THE BURLINGTON OFFICE AND VIRTUAL ACROSS ONTARIO
Maybe you’re feeling…
Hurt because your partner cheated on you
Frustrated with how the two of you talk to each other
Overwhelmed by having to do everything yourself
Angry that your relationship is so unfulfilling
Hopeless by the lack of connection and partnership
Maybe you just need things to be different.
You want a partner, not a roommate. You want to feel loved, seen and valued.
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I’m Paul! As an experienced marriage and relationship counsellor, I help couples sort out their stuff so that they can build or rebuild a trusting, connecting and satisfying relationship.
Infidelity Recovery
Absolutely devastated. Hurt so bad. Angry like never before. These are some ways couples have shared how they felt after finding out their partner had cheated on them.
“Can we ever recover from this?” “How could s/he ever have done this?” “Was our entire marriage a sham?”
I help couples who are trying to recover from the relationship destroying news about infidelity. Through a series of counselling sessions we look at why this happened, and what can be done now to begin the process of recovering from it. Is it even possible? Is there complete and unfiltered ownership? Is there even a desire from both sides to recover?
When we talk about infidelity, we also consider the following:
emotional affairs
physical affairs
lack of boundaries and improper boundaries
sexting, flirting
lack of transparency about friendships outside of the marriage
Communication Repair
Frustration. Feeling unheard. Losing connection. These feelings are common when couples cannot communicate well with each other, which often leads to constant bickering and fighting, ignoring each other and growing further and further apart.
“We live like roommates” is a common way couples describe their relationship to me. “If things don’t improve I can’t see myself living like this forever” and “When things are good, they are good. But when they are not good, it’s pretty bad” are also common ways couples feel who don’t communicate well.
I help couples understand their communication pattern, the strategies they use to communicate that isn’t working, and help develop new strategies that actually work. Helping couples to improve communication, emotionally connect, feel validated and seen can take a few sessions or several.
Poor communication can cause real problems with:
feeling seen and heard
feeling emotionally connected
physical intimacy
outside relationships including with the in-laws
how you argue, resolve conflicts and compromising
Keeping Couples and Families Together.
Families are important. Your relationship with your partner is important.
Burlington Couples Counsellor
For over 10 years I have been specializing in marriage, relationship and couples counselling in the Burlington, Hamilton and Oakville area and have helped hundreds of couples reconnect with each other.
Paul Lucas, Marriage & Couples Counsellor
As a marriage and couples counsellor I specialize in helping couples recover from infidelity, lack of connection and poor communication.
I help couples by…
helping them understand their “dance” that gets them into trouble
explaining the cycle of harmony, disharmony and repair
exploring with them what losing strategies they use during conflicts
educating the connection between the wounded inner child and their wise adult
having honest and open conversations around grandiosity and shame, boundaryless and walled off
giving them new techniques and strategies that helps them get what they want!
10 most common reasons couples come to counselling…
poor communication
ongoing conflicts and arguing
lack of communication
living like roommates
feeling distant and disconnected
problems with the in-laws
work-life stress and imbalance
growing apart and difference in needs, wants and values
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“You are like an angel sent down to help us. I will never forget all you have done for us. Thank you!”
“Amazing! I have learned more about myself in one hour then I have any other time.”
“So happy I found you. We are still married today because of our sessions with you!”
“We came to you in our most darkest time and you helped us navigate it. Forever thankful!”
“We could never have done it without you. Your timing questions, your empathy and focus…”
“You showed that you cared about us. You wanted us to succeed and we did, because of you.”