I help couples and individuals with their relationships by…
helping them uncover the real reasons why they are not getting along.
unpacking the trauma they may have had as a child and see how that trauma is impacting them today.
teaching techniques that they need today that actually work!
Direct & Honest. Unlike many other modalities, I use a direct, no-nonsense approach. No hiding behind text book rules.
Taking Sides. We don’t stay in neutrality. Sometimes we need to take sides as not all problems are 50/50.
Homework & Accountability. Customized homework for in between sessions that will encourage change and accountability.
No Therapy Lingo. We stay away from typical lingo, like “how does that make you feel”. We will have real conversations.
Pro-Marriage. Not all couples therapists are pro-marriage or even have a positive attitude towards marriage.
We break the rules of
traditional couples therapy.
Where Relational Life Therapy and The Gottman Method Meet.
What an amazing combination that most other couples therapists don’t use. The direct, no-nonsense approach with Relational Life Therapy, and the hands-on, effective strategies and techniques of Gottman.
Using both strategies, we open the doors for some intense and intimate work with your family of origin and the wounded child. We explore how the wounded child had become the adaptive child and how that adaptive child is controlling you in your relationship.
In our sessions, you will be guided to discover the actual strategies that you are using, maybe not even realizing it, that is harming your relationship. You will learn and try out new strategies and experience a refreshing change in how the two of you communicate and experience each other.
We may talk about grandiosity and shame, being walled off or boundaryless. We will be able to see the exact “dance” that the two of you are stuck in and what to do about it!
I help you unpack your stuff. Most couples that come in have years and years of resentment built up. They have been hurt over and over. I will help you unpack it so that it is more manageable. Isn’t it time to start feeling lighter?
I will help you stay focused on your purpose of even coming to counselling. We will check in with each other often to make sure we are heading in the right direction.
I will provide a safe space for each of you to talk and share without being interrupted by your partner.
Couples Intensives 🆕
Couples intensives are gaining popularity for couples who want change now. Typical couples counselling happens over 8 to 20 sessions and over a period of months. Sometimes we are ready to do it all now.
Couples Intensives may be for you if:
you have done therapy before but it didn’t work for you
you both are committed to strengthening your relationship and doing the hard, intensive work
you both are ready and willing to take personal responsibility for your part in the disharmony of your relationship
you want to turn conflict into connection
you want to gain skills in how to be in a relationship
you want to regain a partnership
you want to learn how to manage your triggers
you are committed to moving from “me” to “us”
We currently offer 2 types of intensives: mini intensives and full day intensives.
mini-intensives are 3 hours long
full day intensives are 6 hours, 3 in the morning and 3 in the afternoon
There are no intensives in the evenings. Saturday intensives are available
In-Person and Virtual Counselling
Our Burloak Drive office, easily accessible from the 403, offers in-person counseling. Meeting face-to-face allows couples to discuss issues in a neutral setting, away from home. You can sense the therapist’s and your partner’s energy, which can enhance the experience.
We have years of experience helping individuals and couples in Burlington, with clients traveling from as far as Kitchener, Niagara, and Brampton.
Virtual counseling gained popularity during the Covid-19 pandemic, with many therapists and clients adapting to online formats. Fortunately, we had prior experience offering video counseling, ensuring a secure and compliant service with Canadian privacy laws.
Online therapy provides several benefits, including avoiding traffic, saving time, and the convenience of attending sessions from work or your car. Virtual appointments are also easier to schedule without the need for travel. Since 2016, we've connected with couples across Ontario, from Thunder Bay to Ottawa and Windsor.
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Rated 4.9 by hundreds of clients who experienced a transformation of their relationships.
Award winning including Top Marriage Counsellor in Hamilton and Burlington from 2016-2025, and the Silver and Gold Award by the Burlington Community Awards.