5 Simple Things For Your Marriage
Happy marriages are built on the small things. Here I will briefly outline 5 simple things you can do every day for your marriage.
wake up kiss! As soon as the alarm clock goes off (really? alarm clocks? who still has them?!) the rush of the day begins. Getting yourself ready, the kids, your spouse and out the door. Too often we forget how important it is to connect, even for a moment, with your partner. A simple kiss in the morning will go a long way.
check-in during the day! A brief “how u doing” text in the middle of the day can be a great way to connect to your partner. It lets them know that you are thinking about them. I hear from a lot of couples that they love when their partners send them a text or a quick call in the middle of their day. Makes them feel special.
interest upon returning! When you walk in the door from work, probably exhausted, maybe stressed out, we frequently find ourselves heading for the couch. But the most important thing to do before heading there, or while sitting and getting comfy, is to take an interest in your partners day. “How was your day?” “What did you do"?” “How did it go when…?” This is huge. This is one of the biggest complaints I hear from… well… wives. Husbands, take an interest in your wife’s day.
what cell phone? Put your phone away. Especially at dinner time. Sit at the table and eat as a family. Even if it’s just the two of you. Leave the phone down. Put it far away so that it doesn’t tempt you, especially when you hear the ding of an incoming message. Give your marriage a couple hours each evening cell phone free.
final check-in! Kids are in bed, dishes are done, TV show ended. Everyone is exhausted and you totally look forward to heading to bed. But just before you turn yourself in for the night, do another check-in with your partner. Express appreciation. “Thank you honey for watching Big Brother with me” or “I really appreciated dear when you did the dishes today. It helped me a lot!”.
Now, go try it. Do all 5. Start today! I know you can do it!