Not your typical therapy!

No stupid "how did that make you feel" questions!

Interactive, role-playing, homework!

Strategies that actually do work, 90% of my clients say so!

Affairs, past hurt, bickering, lack of connection?  Don't worry, there is hope!

WHAT CLIENTS SAY...

You have been like an angel sent down to help us!  I will be forever thankful.

Wow!  What a session!  I can't believe how much I have learned about myself in just one hour!  I can't wait until next week!

I just wanted to say thank you for guiding us through such a mess.  I don't think we could have done it without you.  You kept giving us hope to carry on.  Thank you!

I am so glad to have found you. I could never explain how much you have helped.

The success of therapy has many factors.  A lot of variables.  I don't believe that I can help everyone. I don't think any therapist out there can help everyone. And what defines success varies from person to person, couple to couple.  The most important element that will define your success in therapy is your connection to the therapist.

90%

of my clients reported therapy was very helpful

I have helped hundreds of individuals and couples with their relationships.  It doesn't have to suck forever. You don't have to be sleeping on the couch.  You can feel connected, loved and appreciated.  I have seen couples come into therapy at their absolute worse.  No hope, no energy to repair and no respect for their partner.  I have seen these same couples trust the process of therapy by going step by step in rebuilding their relationships.

Sometimes Relationships Suck!

Having an unhappy relationship is stressful! All the fighting, bickering, sleeping on the couch, dreading coming home from work can really take a toll on your health.  Plus, it can break down your other relationships with family, friends and work.

Affairs.  Abuse.  Mistrust.  Laziness.  Power and Control.  This all just really sucks.  Hard to imagine things ever getting better, right?  Losing hope?

Sound Familiar?

"When things are good, they are great!  But when things are bad, it's really, really bad!".  Or how about this one, "We are more friends than partners. He lives his life, I live mine. We are like two ships passing by.  It's very lonely to be me."

Poor communication, resentment, lack of emotional connection and poor problem solving can all attribute to these awful feelings.  Good news though...  I can help!

6 Ways On How I Can Help YOU!

Unlike traditional couples therapy that focus on shame, neutrality and "talk therapy", my way of counselling is based on Relational Life Therapy and the Gottman Method.  Interactive, direct and solution focused.  

  1. straightforward & direct.  I will  help you cut to the point.  I will share with you my observations

  2. no therapy lingo.  I interact with you like a human being who genuinely cares about your relationship.  I am not a text-book therapist

  3. take sides, when needed.  Not all problems are 50/50.  Maybe you really did screw up. I will not judge you, but will help you be accountable. A must if you want to rebuild trust

  4. homework. Yes, I will give suggested activities to do in between sessions. You will be amazed what you will learn about yourself, them and the relationship

  5. not an expert.  Well, not an expert in your life.  Rather, I am a fellow traveler who has used the same techniques in my own relationships that I will teach you.  That's how I know it works!

  6. pro-relationship.  I am here to help your relationship last. 

 

Hello!  My name is Paul, a marriage and relationship therapist here in Hamilton.  This is what I do, day in and day out, full time.  I don't have a side gig somewhere.  I pretty much live and breathe therapy.  My practice is focused on couples and relationships, moving from "this totally sucks!" to something a little more enjoyable!  I am pleased that many of my techniques that I use with clients actually do work!  It helps them feel closer to each other, reconnected, and stronger to solve even the most difficult conflicts.  I work hard to help relationships work, but will never work harder than the clients.

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FAQ's

 

"What if my partner won't come to counselling? Do I still go?"

Yes!  You still need guidance, support and a safe place to talk about what's going on.  Many people come to counselling without their partner, and will find it helpful with some of the tools and techniques discussed in sessions to help their situation.

"Do you only do counselling for relationships?  How about if I am not in one?"

I see individuals for all sorts of concerns such as anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, procrastination, concerns about the future, etc.

"How is your style of therapy different from others?"

I believe in being direct. I will tell you what I observe and what I am hearing. I will give you honest feedback. I will tell you what you are doing wrong. I take sides, at times.  I will help empower the powerless.  I do role-playing and suggest homework.  I will not just sit here for the hour and nod my head.  That is how I do it differently.​

© 2019 Paul Lucas, Trained in CBT, SFT, Narrative Therapy, Gottman. Certified Prepare-Enrich facilitator, certified member of the Gottman Relationship Checkup, certificate in EFT For Couples and Marriage.com certified.  Trained in Relational Life Therapy. Dip.Prof.Couns. Rated Top 3 Marriage Counsellors in Hamilton. Serving Burlington, Hamilton and Niagara region.