Helping couples improve communication, work through resentments and repair after infidelity.
I often hear from couples that they should have been in therapy long ago.
Or that when things are good they are good, and when things are bad it’s really bad.
Or that they are more roommates than they are lovers.
It is NOT too late!
I can help you get what you want. It might be worth giving it one more shot at this.
Introducing Relational Life Therapy.
Founder of RLT explains exactly what RLT really is.
Breaking the Rules of Traditional Couples Therapy
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RLT therapists do not hide behind textbook rules. We are direct and honest and we share what we see.
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RLT therapists don’t believe that all problems are fifty-fifty. We takes sides when needed. We see some problems are 60-40. Or 90-10.
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Many typical therapies are focused on a 2 year plan. With RLT, we want couples to make changes quickly and drastic changes that has the biggest impact on the relationship.
Infidelity. Working through the hurt and pain. Guiding you through repair and rebuild.
Causing complete devastation, infidelity breaks the trust - a necessary component of a healthy relationship. The hurt, the shock, the “what did I do to deserve this?!”. All the unknowns. Will he do this to me again? Is this it for us? Our family is permanently broken now? What will the kids think? What will my parents think? I can’t believe this has happened.
In our therapy sessions I will help both of you through the repair process. We will learn what happened and why it happened. We will unwrap the true cause of the infidelity. There will be a strong focus on ownership rather than blame. If you are looking for a quick fix, I am not the right therapist. If you are looking for a true, proper repair, I can help!
Fighting. Disconnection. Loneliness. Helping you move from roommates to loving, attentive partners.
Living like roommates, emotionally disconnected, feeling unheard and dismissed is a lonely place to be. As resentments build, intimacy declines.
In our therapy sessions we will uncover the the true reason for the disconnection and the disharmony. We will also use strategies and techniques to foster emotional maturity, growth to help you go from disharmony back to harmony. Therapy will go as deep into your family of origin as needed, with a focus of the present and future. Let’s not stay in this place of hurt, anger and resentment.
Relationship, Marriage and Couples Counselling in Burlington, Hamilton, Oakville and Niagara.
With a convenient Burlington location for in-person appointments that easily serves those in Hamilton, Ancaster, Milton, Oakville and of course Burlington. Right off the QEW at Burloak. And with secure video, we serve all of Ontario from Thunder Bay to Ottawa to Windsor and everything in between.
Couples Intensives -
transforming relationships
Intensives are becoming more popular than ever before. People are recognizing the impact and benefits of intensives. What can be covered in a intensive would normally take weeks or even months of weekly or biweekly sessions.
We are now offering 2 day intensives!
Couples intensives are also used for Discernment Counselling. This type of counselling helps couples make a decision - to stay or to go. Discernment therapy is structured and focused, just like Couples Intensives. The content in couples intensives will vary somewhat if you are looking for a discernment counselling approach.
What People Are Saying
“Our sessions were very productive. I have gone to counselling before and this time it’s quite refreshing. I like how Paul approaches topics. I never knew before that humor can be part of therapy.”
“I talk to my friends about you. They are amazed on how much I have changed. Thank you for helping me!”
“I will never forget the day when we came in for a session and told you that we are now sleeping in the same bed. You were so happy for us. We slept apart for months. You challenged us to be better people. You kept us on track. You held us accountable. I love my husband so much. Thank you for helping us!”